I just did a quick Google search to be sure I actually know the meaning of the word I’m writing about — “fail”. Here’s what the dictionary says: “to be unsuccessful in achieving one’s goal”.
How could anyone ever say they love being unsuccessful? Is it that I’m not interested in my goals? Or that I don’t care enough to put in the work to actually achieve them?
Well, here’s why I love failing: It simply means I learned something. Full stop.
Yes, that’s why I love it. It means I tried something that didn’t work as I thought it would; and therefore I’ve learned many valuable lessons of what not to do next time I’m working on that project or a similar task.
In my life’s experience — both personal experience and my research by observing other people — those who are most successful are those who failed the most; cos they tried more things than everyone else.
It doesn’t matter whether it’s in business, education, sports, career, etc. — those who test more often are those who attain excellence and success.
Think about people like Christiano Ronaldo, Serena Williams, Rod Stewart, and Elvis Presley. What do they all have in common?
Or just think about my mentor and coach, George Kao. He’s such an expert at testing. He literally calls himself a test-freak.
And because of that, he’s gotten so good at reframing what others might call failure; and he now simply calls it “learning”. No wonder he’s achieving his goals really fast.
Fear of failure leads to inaction.
Many people are too afraid of failing. In business especially, I see solopreneurs who want to be so sure of everything before the take a step. But that helps no one.
Your greatest enemy is fear. And the biggest failure is to do nothing. That, my friend, is bigger than any failure you’d experience in learning from your mistakes.
Stop waiting till you have it all figured out.
Be willing to not know everything in front of you.
Be willing to give up control sometimes and just let go.
It’s in so doing that you truly become excellent at what you do; and move yourself toward the objectives you’ve set for yourself.
If you must achieve your goals, then you must be willing to fail along the way.
And so, even though the dictionary defined failure as being unsuccessful in achieving one’s goal; I’ve now created my own definition of failure.
Failure: To be successful in learning what does not work in achieving one’s goal.
And that’s the definition I live by — constantly testing, failing, evolving, succeeding, learning, and improving.
If that’s the journey I have to take to get to my goal, I’m happy to fail again tomorrow.
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